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Joining early prenatal classes with your partner to learn and to support her as your baby grows is a great first step in becoming a father. It’s a good idea to start classes as soon as the pregnancy is confirmed. Talk to your partner about what you expect of each other as a mother and father before the baby arrives. Share your feelings and concerns, good or bad, with your partner.
Be involved during labour and the birth of your child.
- Prepare early for labour and birth. Discuss with your partner your expectations of the birth. Become familiar with the birth process, and options for pain relief.
- Prepare and practice relaxation techniques and comfort measures. You can learn these in prenatal classes.
- Be aware of your partner’s needs. Ask if what you are doing is helping. If not, keep an open mind and do what she would like.
- Be there for her: go for a walk together, rub her back, and offer her a damp cloth of ice chips.
- Reassure your partner. Tell her that she can do this. Encourage and praise her often. Tell her that you are proud of her.
Your baby is new to both of you!
Share in the care of your child.
- Some things dads can do to support breastfeeding mothers include: bringing the baby to the mother during the night, burping, comforting and putting the baby back to bed.
- Dads might do things differently from moms e.g. diapering, bathing, playing. As long as it’s safe, it’s okay. What’s important is that you both get to build a relationship with your child.
- Make time for romance and try to spend time alone as a couple. Remember you were there as a couple first.
Involved Fathers Can:
- Be a positive role model. What you do gives a stronger message than what you say.
- Create a smoke-free environment. Smoking and second-hand smoke are harmful to unborn babies and children.
- Play, read and spend time with your child.
- Give hugs, kisses, rock, hold and comfort your baby.
- Support your child’s interests, make him/her feel important. Praise your child often.
- Recognize your child’s cues (crying, smiling, cooing, etc.). Take time to learn how your child communicates his/her needs (hunger, pain, happiness, tiredness).
- Enjoy your role as a father.
Adapted from the City of Ottawa Health Services. August 2005.
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